Texts to my new support worker yesterday. This morning the pressure sitting on my chest. Coooowee tis heavy. Here you go:
Me: I've just had a letter from Pathmeads telling me to expect The bailiffs. I've also bid on 2 properties today. The council can end this horror for me and [my son].
NSW: Sue, please do not get anxious about this, you will not be made homeless with nowhere to go. They have applied for a bailiffs, which can take wks and is part of the process. I have TA on the case looking for a flat. (TA is Temporary Accommodation for those not in the know)
Me: You've never been in my situation, let alone 3 times with a child. Anxiety? Noone has any idea. Permanence is what my small family needs. I'm terrified.
Weeks? How many weeks? I sent an email to the woman I met from Shelter. Who knows, you never know, only so grateful that there is this charity there who I could contact to calm me down a bit.
I picked the boy from school. We filled one bag with toys to throw away and one bag with toys to give away.
To think, I'd been cleaning, yes cleaning, the inside of a kitchen cupboard when the letter came.
I wanted to mention the bailiffs to my son but I didn't. Nor did I cry.
Friday, 15 October 2010
Thursday, 14 October 2010
How kind.... NOT
Just received, this 'routine' crap. Hate the fecking greedy property owner and also seems like the housing association couldn't give a shit. Probably doesn't, because as time and time I've been told this is 'routine'. Anyway, here goes. After I've posted I shall scream jolly loudly then go and pick up my son from school and pretend I've had a fabulous day....
Dear Ms de Nim,
EVICTION FOR LEASE END
Pathmead's Housing Association obtained a possession order for your home in the Central London County Court on 07 December 2009.
I am writing to advise you that I have asked the Central London County Court to arrange for the Bailiff to evict you from your home. The Court will write to you shortly and notify you of the date for the eviction.
If you are going to be homeless after the eviction you should contact the Local Authority Homeless Persons Unit at London Borough of Camden, Temporary Housing Group, (& address) who may be able to offer advice or assistance.
When you are notified of the eviction date, you must ensure that you clear all your possessions from the property and return the keys to the Bailiff. You will not be allowed back into the property after the eviction.
Yours sincerely
Legal Administrator
RRRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH
Better let new support worker know
Fucking bastard shit crap wank the lot of it
Dear Ms de Nim,
EVICTION FOR LEASE END
Pathmead's Housing Association obtained a possession order for your home in the Central London County Court on 07 December 2009.
I am writing to advise you that I have asked the Central London County Court to arrange for the Bailiff to evict you from your home. The Court will write to you shortly and notify you of the date for the eviction.
If you are going to be homeless after the eviction you should contact the Local Authority Homeless Persons Unit at London Borough of Camden, Temporary Housing Group, (& address) who may be able to offer advice or assistance.
When you are notified of the eviction date, you must ensure that you clear all your possessions from the property and return the keys to the Bailiff. You will not be allowed back into the property after the eviction.
Yours sincerely
Legal Administrator
RRRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH
Better let new support worker know
Fucking bastard shit crap wank the lot of it
Attempting to make my own luck....
Hi [son's social worker],
Just to say thanks for being [my son's] duty social worker and for mentioning mine and his loving relationship at the meeting yesterday.
I have to say though, because no-one heard me, is that all my 'underlying issues' are to do with housing. All my 'underlying issues' were woken up when I got pregnant and had to move and then since then have been forced to move three times with my son.
You know I was sent to boarding school at 14. The nature of these places is that you have to 'move room' every term, and pack and unpack every holiday. You know I was 'evicted' from the first school and sent to a place more like a borstal afterwards.
They told me stop talking about housing yesterday at the meeting, but I can't, especially right now as me and [my son] await another bailiffs order and his education is most at risk, because the next place won't be secure, so he'll be looking at being evicted again.
Any therapy I have will be about housing, housing, housing and the only way to stop that is for me and my child to be offered a permanent flat.
I'm glad the meeting could see I'm not failing my child in anyway, but they must understand that the system is.
I've bid on two local properties today. A seven year struggle with housing can be over so easily but unfortunately that's up to the council.
Good luck with your future endeavours, it was nice to meet you and know that like me, you are, or were a single mother, and know just how difficult it can be.
Kind regards
Sue
Just to say thanks for being [my son's] duty social worker and for mentioning mine and his loving relationship at the meeting yesterday.
I have to say though, because no-one heard me, is that all my 'underlying issues' are to do with housing. All my 'underlying issues' were woken up when I got pregnant and had to move and then since then have been forced to move three times with my son.
You know I was sent to boarding school at 14. The nature of these places is that you have to 'move room' every term, and pack and unpack every holiday. You know I was 'evicted' from the first school and sent to a place more like a borstal afterwards.
They told me stop talking about housing yesterday at the meeting, but I can't, especially right now as me and [my son] await another bailiffs order and his education is most at risk, because the next place won't be secure, so he'll be looking at being evicted again.
Any therapy I have will be about housing, housing, housing and the only way to stop that is for me and my child to be offered a permanent flat.
I'm glad the meeting could see I'm not failing my child in anyway, but they must understand that the system is.
I've bid on two local properties today. A seven year struggle with housing can be over so easily but unfortunately that's up to the council.
Good luck with your future endeavours, it was nice to meet you and know that like me, you are, or were a single mother, and know just how difficult it can be.
Kind regards
Sue
It would be so easy to end this....
In the week that I rage (calmly) about a secure home for my child near his school, there are two local properties that I have bid on.
Walk to school properties
That's it, story's over properties
A new chapter can begin properties
Where my son's foundation is secure properties
And I can think about work not debt properties
They are not 'ideal' properties, if you are a millionaire
You know, garden properties
They are 'ideal' properties if you waiting for another bailiffs order properties
One can only imagine properties
Imagine
Walk to school properties
That's it, story's over properties
A new chapter can begin properties
Where my son's foundation is secure properties
And I can think about work not debt properties
They are not 'ideal' properties, if you are a millionaire
You know, garden properties
They are 'ideal' properties if you waiting for another bailiffs order properties
One can only imagine properties
Imagine
The deep, dark woods
A stigmum found a nut in the deep dark woods
Couldn't go over it
Couldn't go under it
She's still going through it...
Couldn't go over it
Couldn't go under it
She's still going through it...
Knife edges in the deep dark woods
Thanks, it's such a knife edge isn't it. Couldn't trust that a child protection order on [my son] would help either of us, because unfortunately, it would be him needing protection from me, not needing protection from such an unfair system (and I don't care that [New Support Worker] says they are acting 'within the law'.. the law is wrong!)
I hope I put my points across ok. I wish I'd been able to nail a permanent offer for my boy. Next time round I guess...
Many many thanks again, I'll buy you a drink at the next disco!!
Sue
My response to the Deputy yesterday after she'd responded to my email saying I "did very well in such a stressful situation."
She'd really backed me up saying I was a major player in the school's PTA and mentioned the discos I always help out with. It'll be a lemonade if she lets me, none of the staff ever do as I do and reach for Al.
I wanted to end the email on a lighter tone, for I'm so not looking forward to the 'next round'.
Maybe there won't be a 'next round'. Maybe there'll be a miracle.
Thirty three Chilean miners survived 69 days down in the bowels of the earth. For 17 days, everyone thought they were dead. Today they are all freeeeeeeeee!!!
Hope can triumph!
I'll keep hoping and praying that a miracle happens for me and my son too in these deep, dark woods.
I hope I put my points across ok. I wish I'd been able to nail a permanent offer for my boy. Next time round I guess...
Many many thanks again, I'll buy you a drink at the next disco!!
Sue
My response to the Deputy yesterday after she'd responded to my email saying I "did very well in such a stressful situation."
She'd really backed me up saying I was a major player in the school's PTA and mentioned the discos I always help out with. It'll be a lemonade if she lets me, none of the staff ever do as I do and reach for Al.
I wanted to end the email on a lighter tone, for I'm so not looking forward to the 'next round'.
Maybe there won't be a 'next round'. Maybe there'll be a miracle.
Thirty three Chilean miners survived 69 days down in the bowels of the earth. For 17 days, everyone thought they were dead. Today they are all freeeeeeeeee!!!
Hope can triumph!
I'll keep hoping and praying that a miracle happens for me and my son too in these deep, dark woods.
Wednesday, 13 October 2010
"Who do you have supporting you?"
The social services Leader man asked me:
"Who do you have supporting you?"
It was a tricky question.
"Erm, not counting the school, er..."
"Family?"
"Friends."
I stalled cos of you stiggers. I also think it's a blessing I momentarily forgot that I asked Mary, St Rita, Arch Angel Michael and Angel Cambiel (Power) to come into the room with me.
They were there but I wonder what the response would have been if I'd answered: "God."?
Hmmm, I'll never know!
"Who do you have supporting you?"
It was a tricky question.
"Erm, not counting the school, er..."
"Family?"
"Friends."
I stalled cos of you stiggers. I also think it's a blessing I momentarily forgot that I asked Mary, St Rita, Arch Angel Michael and Angel Cambiel (Power) to come into the room with me.
They were there but I wonder what the response would have been if I'd answered: "God."?
Hmmm, I'll never know!
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