My nine year old son came back giggling from Kung Fu the other day telling me what he and his friends had been up to in the changing rooms.
Seems one was thrusting his hips out saying "Lick me lick me suck me suck me!"
My son responded similarly: "Bow to me bow to me!" and I couldn't help laughing at his contagious giggle.
"Do you think the girls were doing the same in their changing rooms?" I asked him. "Bow to me, bow to me!"
"Uurgh!" he says. "Who'd want to snog hair?"
It's not the first time I've heard him say this so instead of ignoring him, like I did before I said: "When you're older you'll grow hair too you know but what you have to realise is our bits are inside us where it's not hairy. Your bits are outside, our bits are inside!"
My son looks at me.
"Why did God make us different?"
I give you our conversation because double standards exist in our society. We as individuals may feel liberated but within wider society we are judged very differently to men. Good girls don't have sex ey? A myth propogated by society, by families in many instances.
I also write this because I'm going to put a link to a website I found on a different post - labeled, well, sexual healing I guess!
It's for women like me who have to learn to reconnect to themselves and not be afraid.
Oh, and I do believe God gave me a son because I am such a sexual fuck up there was a danger I'd fuck up my daughter. Honestly, I didn't have the first clue though I'm getting one now. That's just me though, I make no judgement on anyone else.
Bow to me, Bow to me!